Why is marriage so sought after?

I've been with my boyfriend for years now and both of us are quite happy in our routine lives. Everyone asks, when are you getting married? Why is that the assumed next step? Is there anyone else happy without the unneeded piece of paper from the government? Even if children were in the picture, I don't see why, in a loving relationship with trust and comfort and happiness, we need to worry about a pointless ceremony just for tradition.Why is marriage so sought after?
My man and I agree with you. We don't need the paper either. What is rather annoying is all the questions because we aren't married.We no longer answer other than a semi-polite, ';we'll let you know if it happens';.Why is marriage so sought after?
Few reasons I can think of:


-Legal protection in case financial assets are being shared (which happens in long term relationships)


-Legal protection and emotional connection for kids; kids are comparing everything they see around the world with what they have at home. Do their friends have married parents or single parents?


-Religious reasons (depending on the couple)





If it is just a pointless tradition, then what is the harm in going through with it?
Yes, definitely I agree. Getting married does not change peoples character into a positive way, neither makes problems suddenly disappear… if the relationship was rotten before marriage, after marriage it will be just the same … If a relationship is fine and people are happy together they do not sign any paper to show the world how happy they are together. I always regarded marriage as something “useless”, as whether married or not, if the couple does not go on well together, there will be no future.


Marriage is no guarantee for happiness and no guarantee that your partner will never leave you.


What´s important for children is to see their mom %26amp; dad happy together; a family does not mean that there is a paper signed which is interpreted as a kind of obligation.


Sure, we sometimes get married because we want to make our families happy and it is what they expect and nag on you always they see you… spend a lot of money to see everybody eating and drinking for free.


I got married as well and nothing changed between us – Fortunately!!!


But if I were in the same situation again I would buy a flight to Las Vegas and get married there, so we would have fun and enjoy our day.


As on my wedding everybody enjoyed much more than us, running around to make everything perfect and spending such a lot of money on people we never seen again since then…



The piece of paper from the government doesn't matter, what is beautiful about marriage is that it is comforting that someone is making an everlasting promise of commitment to you, to always love you unconditionally. Marriage is a symbol of love. Don't look down on marriage as just an unneeded piece of paper.
Marriage will strengthen a relationship by making the committment in front of the state, friends, family and peers. Without marriage a lng term committed relationship is on shaky ground, and when hard times hit, there may not be enough social support and foundation to see it through.






I totally know how you feel. I don't understand the whole thing either. Not only that like 60% of people that get married end up divorced anyway so its pointless now days. You have to be really ready and make SURE that's what you want!! People don't get that and some people look down on people that have been dating for some time and never get married. I don't ever plan of getting married!! Good luck to you and your BOYFRIEND!! Lol!!
marriage is more than a piece of paper, it is vowing your love or another person for the rest of your life(or suppose to be). it is more meaningful than just dating, but the important thing is that you both are happy together, marriage is just more final. more committedd.
i agree. but if you don't have a will it could cause problem if something happened to on of you. also if you do ever break up it can be harder to sort out the legal stuff. the paper just protects both of you in these cases.
i see where your coming from. just tell them that then when they ask y'all questions like that. its just if two people are together for a while and people see y'all all happy that's the first thing that comes to there mind.
Thats the expectation of the world. I say if you guys are happy the way you are then stay that way. Marriage is a big step



Some people do it because of their religious backgrounds. Others think it's more for stability. There are so many other reasons why it's done. But I can understand what your saying.
it is socially correct to be married
that's just a mind set most people have that.