What are the good ways to liven up a marriage?

We're in our 40s. We've been married for 17 years now and things are humming along. We've been respectful and responsible in our actions towards each other, and we love, accept and support each other. Of course, we also squabble, but the bottomline is that we are comitted to each other. We also love our kids (9 and 11) to the bone. I wouldn't trade my life for anything else. The question then is, is this all? Where have the spark, the romance, the flush of emotions gone to? Is this it? Would love to hear from people out there.What are the good ways to liven up a marriage?
dis is a life cycle my dear...we just have to accept d facts.





the sparks, the romance, d flush of emotions r still well kept in ur treasure box. they will nv be robbed away from u both. is always buried deep in ur hearts. neither of u have remembered to dig it up till u pop up dis question.





is time and i mean now....is time to open up d treasure box u always have longed for. time and kids have clouded tat little memory where d treasure was hidden.





open up ur mind and unlock the treasure in ur hearts and u will c and feel dose tings tat u both have long missed.





cheers!!!What are the good ways to liven up a marriage?
Since you ';love your wife very much and will do whatever it takes for a happy marriage,'; you need to be clear about what is really happening between the two of you if you want to put your marriage back on the right track.





You and your wife have problems in communication. Beyond the problem of communication, there is the problem of your feeling differently about each other. Your wife ';loves you as a friend and not as a husband'; while you love your wife both as friend and as a wife.
Go clubbing and get crazy drunk together. Drinking with your friends is one thing, but getting sloppy drunk with your mate is completely different and fun. It's also a sort of bonding experience. It's kind of fun to get kicked out as a couple for being too loud or too drunk or too ';can't-wait-to-get-home.'; Uhm...just don't drive, get a cab.
Try something new together. My wife and I took dance lessons and started the habit of sharing a dance every morning before we leave for work. To liven up the sex life try doing it in new places... the roof of the house one cloudy night was very exciting, but take a quilt- shingles are painful.
Find something around the house that they have to do but hate doing it and you do it for them as a surprise. Find a park that rents log cabins for the weekend. Walk through the park. A computer game. Go to a church function or crash a wedding. Visit something famouse.
Take a romantic trip for two, a cruise anyplace but go alone together.....If that doesn't do it for you, then something else is wrong your not telling us.
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17 years is a long time to be with someone.That just shows how you both are commited to one another.


Relationships are really sensitive and need to be taken one moment at a time its only normal to squabble once in a while and respect is paramount.


When we end up seeing one person everyday of our lives its only human to start feeling a little laid back.


but remember you and your partner must keep the flame burning.


The shortcut to this is just play the girlfriend boyfriend game when you were still seeing each other and treasured the small things in life,try and go out more often with each other and spending some quite moments outside home and reminisce the nice times that you have spent.


Talk to each other on how your days went and any fears and emotions that you are holding back this will help cement your relationship further.


The spark the romance and the emotions are all there its just that the two of you are not commited to other things try and concentrate on each other and enjoy each others company.


Hope you are passionate once again.





love s
Think all marriages go through this type of thing, before you get married you have to work very hard to show each other how much you want to be together but once married you have caught each other so you feel you do not have to work so hard and that is fine to start with but then you start to miss that real feeling of being wanted.





You cant go back as that was that stage in your life and you have moved on but what you can do is look at ways of making it more fun again and having time for each other. Children always take a lot of your time and energy and you tend to take a back seat to each other. Well now is the time to re-look at what you need to do to spice up your life.





Going out more is a good starting point, a nice meal, the cinema, a short break away without the children. In the short term spice up your sex life be a bit more daring try new things, be sexy even when not in bed at night. BUT first talk to each other see what you both fancy doing.