Why do you think women care more about marriage than men?

Most men don't spend a lot of time dreaming about finding a soul mate or who they will marry and falling in love and so on. Most of the time, men are just out for a good time.





And before you start.. I never said ';men never care about marriage';.





I'm saying they 'usually' care about it less than women and less often than women. I'm speaking of the rule, not the exception.





Why do you think this is?Why do you think women care more about marriage than men?
Stereotypically, yes, many women do dream about the whole marriage thing prior to getting married. Some even fantasized about it as young girls. I think girls are just socialized this way.





During the marriage, however, I'd say men and women care about it equally.Why do you think women care more about marriage than men?
Because women usually fantasize about the happily ever after. Guys, they just go with the flow and some like the idea of being single and playing the field. Some like to explore options. Which is one reason why women may get their heart broken more often. Because they do want the happily ever after.
I disagree. I work with teenagers and more of the males think that its important to have a family. They say they don't talk about it because they are insecure that they are not good enough to support a family.
In my country (India), most people, both men and women think seriously about marriage from a certain age. This is probably because parents start talking about marriage right from the time you're around 21. Especially for women, marriage is considered the ultimate purpose of their lives by most people. So I think it's mostly social conditioning, what you're taught to expect from childhood, romance novels, etc. Through trends, men often learn to look at women not in a romantic sense--they have fewer notions of ';love'; and ';happily ever after'; dinned into their heads, whereas few women escape these ideas!
Because women are ';planners'; and constantly try to picture how everything is going to be or how they would like it. Men just go with the flow. I think this analogy applies to a lot more than just marriage. My husband is always telling me to stop ';what if-ing';. LOL, we are born worriers. :)
More women than men live in a dreamworld.
Because every other day you hear about another guy losing his house, car, boat, children, and half of his money to his ex-wife. Why get married when you can just light all of those things on fire?





... except the children, of course.
I dont care about marriage.
For many women, fulfilling their dreams requires finding the right husband. Most women want to have children, and having a man to provide for you while you do is one of the only ways to do it successfully. For better or worse, men still earn more than women on average, so achieving the lifestyle she wants will also depend on finding the right man. And given the intense social focus of women, they are also extremely conscious of how finding the right husband will raise their esteem in the views of their friends and family.





While most men look forward to marriage, it is less important to them because they have less at stake. For them it is primarily about finding a partner. Children are generally assumed to be part of the deal, but they are not longed for. Men assume that they will continue working, so having a family makes little difference in their daily lives. They always expect to have to provide for themselves. With rare exceptions, men don't have the option of having someone else take care of them. And men care much less about the esteem of their friends and family. They want a wife for themselves, not to impress anyone else.
I'm not that way, but I think for alot of women, they want to know that they have some sense of security in the future. I also think that they want to have kids and that is hard to do if you are single or unmarried. I also think that society makes women feel like a failure if they don't get married, because you don't want to be an ';old spinster'; or an ';old maid';. Its different for guys, they aren't considered a failure by society for not getting married.
Because we get pregnant. DUH. A woman's desire to get married is DIRECTLY linked to how young and fertile she is, and the likelihood of pregnancy. Middle-aged women are often happy to just live together, as are very young women with no plans for a baby.





(realizes the mistake) ';Oh, I think it must be that we are socialized to want to be married. After all, women and men are identical, except for the reproductive organs! It must be a plot of the evil patriarchy!';
Woman care more about everything that leds up to it they start planning when their five.


Once all the fanfare is over because men know that no matter how much you spend on a dress or the wedding cost it all goes out the window the next day.


Men do care about being married.
Women are raised (at least all the ones I knew) to grow up and get married. For hundreds of years a woman's marriage defined her. That was basically the biggest event and sometimes only event in her life. I think all that stuck in women's brains now.
Marriage has become so feminized over the years that it doesn't surprise me at all. The flowers, the fine food, and the attention to decorum are all ';woman things.'; And it's not just weddings. Men have historically been portrayed as rugged individuals, and women as those who cling to them. Perceptions haven't changed much, but people have. Statistics have indicated that men do care more about getting married, even if they don't want to admit it to each other.
As more and more men opt out of marriage, women will eventually have to change the way they think, because they will realize it just isn't going to happen.





Hopefully, women today will raise their girls to not expect marriage.